There are three kinds of people. Those who seek out isolation as a way to be alone for whatever reason, those who balance out their crazy, hectic lives with a little solitude and serenity, and those who cannot be by themselves many times because they are uncomfortable with their self and the thought of being alone in the world. Whatever the reason, people today have an odd way of living their isolation out to extremes. Whether it’s through iPod headphones, watching movies/Netflix on our phones or even on our laptops, technology has made our lives extremely lonesome. We no longer depend on people for our every day needs. If we need to contact someone, sending a simple two-letter text can suffice instead of getting off our butts and visiting them, or calling to chat on the phone. Even driving in a car for hours to and from work is isolating in itself – blast your music and you can’t even hear the cop sirens chasing by you, or the ambulances on their way to save a life. By living in a bubble it can be hard to see what’s going on around you and care.
People seem to think that if they were to care about anything, they’d have to care about everything – and seriously, who has time for all that nonsense?! I’ve met a fair few people in my day who I can honestly say are compassionate. That doesn’t mean they obsess over every little aspect of life, but they empathize with life as a whole. See the big picture not just the world you want to see. Others I’ve known tend to find one thing and focus on it – for some this is charity work, in its many forms. For others it’s politics – and lord knows, living in the DC Metro area, there are plenty of those! But it seems to me that there’s a fine line between the compassionate type of care and the obsessive type. For plenty of political activists, this becomes evident when they would rather fight than actually logically defend what they believe, when being open-minded is an assault on their “knowledge.” I find that the best arguments are those in which the people actually know what they are talking about, both sides of the argument and why they chose the one they did. Much like putting on their headphones, it’s easy to simply believe in something without making an active decision. But like solitude, knowing the Whys are what separates us from the animals of the earth.
I happen to be one of those people who likes their solitude. Not in ignorance, but rather in observation. By listening instead of speaking, hearing instead of talking, looking instead of ignoring, reaching out rather than pulling back, we can gain a knowledge and understanding of the world that most people don’t have. It doesn’t matter about what, just that you’re constantly evaluating the world around you.
Modern technology has made isolation unavoidable. You can either embrace it or avoid it. Instead of losing ourselves in being alone, or going the opposite route and being too scared of ourselves or (sometimes lack of) our thoughts, why not use your time by yourself, in meditation, noticing the world around you and your place inside of it. Noticing the people you interact with and what makes them who they are. When people realize that you are capable of understanding where you are as a person, you gain respect.
- Solitude (onepowerfulword.wordpress.com)
- Are you “isolating” and “withdrawing” or do you just need to spend some time alone? (bipolarblast.wordpress.com)
- Solitude (aspoonfulofyoga.wordpress.com)